Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Diets Don't Work

This seems to be the new catch-phrase in my life lately.

As much as I wanted it to be the answer, the Whole 30 didn't last long for me. I tried to even ease out of it into a Paleo-style way of eating.

That hasn't seemed to work, either.

I think it's the restriction. When I start restricting my mind goes crazy. Like a switch goes off and I have an insatiable urge for everything I'm supposed to be restricting.

I tried carb-cycling for two days last week.

And then the 4th of July rolls around and I woke up wanting to have a cookout with friends. It was actually a blast, and I didn't regret anything I ate.

But the eating on Saturday, Sunday, Monday and today... I'm kinda regretting.

I am feeling like a diet failure. Again.

It's July 8 and my summer is almost over. Teacher inservices start tomorrow. I got back to work on July 25. And my 20-year reunion is August 2.

AND I still haven't lost any weight this summer.

Yes, I have maintained. I have exercised and I haven't miserably failed and started gaining weight.

But my intention was to lose weight this summer. Why can't I just lose weight?

I am over it. It's the one thing in my life that I can't get right or be content with, and I just hate that! It irritates me to no end.

I was standing in the kitchen last week griping about my diet and food and my teenaged daughter looked at me and said, "Momma, you know that diets don't work. That's your problem."

I hated to admit she was right. But I was still trying to Whole 30.

THEN another friend said the same thing a few days ago. Diets don't work. Stop dieting.

Damned if I didn't log into Instagram this morning and a friend had posted a link to another guy's account who just wrote a book with the title, "Diets Don't Work".

I think it's a sign.

My goal for the rest of the week is to just track using MFP. I went in and defaulted the goals... I am just going to try to follow what they say. I am going to try not to stress about the food. Just track.

I refuse to give up, but damn. I'm so sick of diet and weight loss right now. I just want to be normal. I just want to have a NORMAL relationship with food. I just want to see weight loss as a result of effort. I just don't want to feel STUCK anymore.

Is that too much to ask?


  1. I was just talking about this today to a friend of mine. I get so tired of the yo-yo of weight loss. I have lost weight by working out and eating sensibly, but I guess I get greedy and want to speed up the process so I turn to diets. Which always, always, always fail for me. Generally I end up heavier in the end. So thank you for confirming what I've been telling myself over the last week. No more shakes or potions...hard work/exercise!

  2. No, it's not too much to ask. That's exactly how I feel too right now - sick of thinking about diets, thinking about weight, feeling like a failure. But you - we - haven't failed while we're still trying. And it's not us that are failing anyway - it is the diet.
    Diets Don't Work.

  3. Well I probably shouldn't comment like I'm an expert when I have been in a funk lately but ...
    I can totally related to what your saying and I think taking on a whole new way of eating is a lot for anybody to do all at once. I usually try to identify the big problems that are steering me off course and just work on one issue like skipping my breakfast and once I have that resolved with a couple weeks of success I add another change.

  4. Hollie, I totally agree with you! I can't even use MFP because I totally wig out is about 36 hours with counting the numbers. It's insanely stressful, and I end up hating myself. I've learned that instead I need to focus on what I *can* do and eat. I can walk those extra blocks, do that extra set of high-to-low planks in yoga, I can eat a huge salad with lean protein on top, and I can enjoy all the wonderful summer produce to my heart's content. It puts me in the right frame of mind to make healthy choices because I CAN--not because some diet is telling me to.

  5. Diets do work. You just need to make the decision that you would rather be thin than eat something fattening. You should also forgo the Smart Ones. Choose to eat healthy real food that you make yourself. If you make it about health and energy, you may find that you have more willpower.

  6. Do I ever get where you are coming from! Normal would sure be nice. But from seeing my thin friends and family eat, their normal is a world away from my normal. Their normal is my diet. It's my attitude toward food that isn't normal, this idea that I should be able to eat totally unreasonable proportions of food. I'm eating like those thin people right now, and boy am I seeing a difference. But their normal sure feels like a diet to me.

  7. I hope you have a good weekend.

  8. I see what you feel. So hard to accept that our effort was not successful. Don't give up. I pray for your success. I have a blog about weight loss at wanna-weightloss.blogspot.com. Hope my blog helpful. :)

  9. Hi Hollie, I've just come across your blog and wanted to say how I completely agree with your comments and everyone else's!! Food can be so annoying that there are days I just don't want to think about it anymore. I'm actually on my own weight loss journey and recently started my own blog (thru my IT studies): http://myweightlossjourney2014cbr.blogspot.com.au/2014/07/welcome-to-my-personal-weight-loss.html

    I started going to Curves back in April this year and have lost approx 9 kilos and that's been mainly through exercise but NO dieting!! I figured this time around that I would just listen to my body's signals and stop when I'm comfortably full. I still eat a little bit of chocolate now and again and eat desserts but in much smaller portions. Anyway, it seems to be working. The exercise has made me feel absolutely fantastic and I can finally feel all my muscles!! My hair feels great, my skin is glowing again and my face looks brighter.

    I'm also following a medical doctor called Dr Rick Kausman and am reading his book "If not dieting, then what?" It's mainly about intuitive eating. He also has another book called "Calm Eating" that has motivational quotes throughout it.

    Hope my blog may be of interest to you and anyone else and thanks for allowing me to blog on your site. All the best!!

  10. Hi Hollie
    Have u ever been to an OA meeting?

  11. You have a good goal. It does seem kind of depressing at times that we can't "eat like normal people" but I have been working on sucking it up and accepting my body's limits and needs, and doing what has to be done... as hard as that really is.

  12. Hi there!

    I read your post and oh man I can relate in terms of struggling with your relationship with food. I used to be a binge eater and I still have a tendency to emotionally eat, but I'm happy I'm much better at controlling it now.

    Have you ever heard of the Wild Rose Cleanse? The thing is, the foods we eat make up our body and in turn will determine what foods you crave. Consuming processed wheat, sugar and other processed foods will make you continue to crave those foods and generally those foods we crave tend to be the foods that are the most high in bad fats, high in sugar and are so bad for our waistlines!! The Wild Rose Cleanse is only 12 days long, and there is no restriction on how much you can't eat quantity wise, however there is a restriction on the kind of food you can eat during this period. The cleanse is to reset your body and help your metabolism work the way it should and to clean your insides! It makes sense that you can't feed your body certain foods because your body is in self cleaning mode. But 12 days is much shorter than 30 days and there are so many ways you can improvise the foods you can eat to feel satisfied! I'm on day 7 and I feel amazing! I have no unhealthy cravings and I feel very good! :)

    I would highly recommend!

  13. Hey you're right diets definitely don't work it's just simple life changes that help you out. You can start with this article that has fruit infused water that can help satisfy that sweet tooth and gives a spice to regular water


  14. That is where I have been for a while now. I thought signing up for the half marathon this year would automatically give me willpower and inspiration...yeah, not so much.
    I've been running for the last two weeks and GAINED weight. Ug.

  15. I literally just posted something similar to this on my blog. I'm going through the same dang thing. I've tried diets and every time I inevitably give into my cravings and then when I fail I am so guilt ridden and depressed that I just keep eating. My new moto in life is to throw out the diet and eat. I'm going to cook whole and healthy meals but if I want to bbq with my friends because it's summer time you better believe I'm going to be doing it.

  16. It deeply saddened me that your efforts in dieting are in vain. You know what your right, you don't need to restrict yourself from eating foods. Instead make peace with it. Try this type of dieting, its called the fast metabolism diet. In this type of diet you don't starve yourself but gave an abundance in eating! You get to eat 5 times a day. yes, you heard it right! try reading the book also. http://thefastmetabolismdiet.blogspot.com/

    Just please don't lose hope. I really hope this will be the right path to you.

  17. Wow, I relate to that just wanting to be normal, but what is normal anyway? Everybody tries to tell their own version of what being normal is and what being healthy is. You have to decide what is best for you. I love what you said about just tracking and being aware. You may be surprised what you find, and you may be able to make a few comfortable adjustments, or maybe you will find that you are just fine staying where you are. I just believe we all have the answer inside of ourselves.


  18. Hi,
    I tried to post before but it didn't work. I just wanted to say definitely don't give up hope. I wanted to tell you that my husband and I recently lost weight. My husband went from 217 to 175 and I went from 133 to 121. My primary focus was helping my husband lose weight, but we do everything together. The best part about the way we lost weight is that it is sustainable. I enjoy helping people reach their goals and that is why I'm getting my personal trainer certification right now. I would love to help you. Please email me at bodyfuel4life@yahoo.com my name is Crystal.

  19. Hollie HONEY!!! you are preaching to the choir over here!!! I totally feel your pain


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